Liz Doyle Yoga

Hello Friends!

Socially unacceptable feelings. We all have them; anger, frustration, sadness, jealousy, resentfulness, impatience, the list goes on. Since we all have them and experience them, why do we find it so hard to be honest about it and express these feelings?

I think it's particularly challenging in the yoga community, where part of our practice is observing the yamas and niyamas (see the previous blog entry), and part of practicing yoga and "taking one's yoga off the mat" is living differently out in the world. It's seems to me that many interpret this as "I'm not supposed to have these feelings".

I was talking with one of my teachers about my perceived pressure, as a yoga teacher, to be a certain way. She summed it up so well:

"I am very up front with what I am going through. I don't want people thinking for a minute I live in an ivory tower and I will not perpetuate the perfect-life-yoga-teacher crap. I think we should let people know we are getting pummeled, so they can see us recover."

It's not real for people to pretend they are always happy and perfectly content and peaceful. It's a load of crap. As humans we all experience these "negative" feelings. As yogis, the yoga is not in avoiding socially acceptable feelings, or in denying them, but acknowledging them (satya), and still maintaining good behavior.

For example, it's normal to get frustrated while driving in traffic. Instead of pretending your not annoyed by the guy that almost crashed into you, hopefully, you'll recognize what you're feeling, sense what's happening in your body (for example, where you are holding tension and gripping, what's happening with your breath), stay calm and let it go. Either that, or you could go into a road rage and follow them yelling and honking and using your car as a weapon. We've all seen those people too, and hopefully we can avoid the "negative" action that might result from the "undesirable" feeling or experience.

Yoga is not about cessation of the mind, or for that matter cessation of an experience, like negative feelings; it is about refining the mind and consciously directing our attention to accomplish what we desire, with the tools (the mind and body) that we've been given. Stay present in the now. You won't always live up to your personal ideal of perfection, but that's normal. Have a REAL experience, and live to the best of your ability. There's no joy without sorrow, no pleasure without pain. The contrast of the the nadir of human existence helps us appreciate the pinnacle of human existence. Use your practice to help you understand how to fully experience everything that Life has to offer. And we'll all be right along side each other, occasionally tripping down the path.

Warmly,

Liz Doyle
http://www.lizdoyleyoga.com/